JMS's Dirty Laundry
- The_Sinister_Mastermind
- <font color=red><b>Overlord</b></font>
- Posts: 2744
- Joined: Wed Oct 26, 2005 11:20 am
- Location: NSW, Australia, Down Under Verse
Awww I was hoping for some juicy dirt on old members of the boards.
Still, was an interesting read, my internet history isn’t quite so dramatic but some advice.
- Text doesn’t convey the emotion in words, so be careful with the way you word things and the way you interpret what others write.
- Remember that you’re interacting with real people, with real emotions
- Take everything with a grain of salt and try not to get too serious about it, remember if it’s bugging you there’s always that little red X in the top right corner that can make it all just go away.
Still, was an interesting read, my internet history isn’t quite so dramatic but some advice.
- Text doesn’t convey the emotion in words, so be careful with the way you word things and the way you interpret what others write.
- Remember that you’re interacting with real people, with real emotions
- Take everything with a grain of salt and try not to get too serious about it, remember if it’s bugging you there’s always that little red X in the top right corner that can make it all just go away.
<center>I am the master, fear none but me. I am the master of all that will be...
Are you looking for Z? - DOSBox & D-Fend Guide! - I’m looking for 4 games!
Best Of Windows Entertainment Package
DOSgames IRC is back! now with DOS Trivia!
Server: irc.p2p-network.net
Channel: #DOSgames
For mIRC users: irc://irc.p2p-network.net/DOSgames
Please don’t PM me every time you can’t find a game, I really don’t have time to logon to the site that often let alone be your personal assistant.
Just use the “Finding Old Games” subforum like everyone else.</center>
Are you looking for Z? - DOSBox & D-Fend Guide! - I’m looking for 4 games!
Best Of Windows Entertainment Package
DOSgames IRC is back! now with DOS Trivia!
Server: irc.p2p-network.net
Channel: #DOSgames
For mIRC users: irc://irc.p2p-network.net/DOSgames
Please don’t PM me every time you can’t find a game, I really don’t have time to logon to the site that often let alone be your personal assistant.
Just use the “Finding Old Games” subforum like everyone else.</center>
- Check-Mate
- Lover Of The Tiny Guybrush
- Posts: 1030
- Joined: Sun Jan 12, 2003 4:28 pm
- Location: Canada
- 486 player
- Gaming Demi-god
- Posts: 1219
- Joined: Wed Sep 18, 2002 6:32 am
- Location: Europe
- Larry Laffer
- Admin
- Posts: 4143
- Joined: Sun Feb 19, 2006 8:06 am
- Location: Romania
-
- Expert
- Posts: 154
- Joined: Sat Dec 23, 2006 9:07 pm
You can call me Justin or JMS, which became my most common handle.
The reason I changed my nic so much, each nickname was a concept I invented, rather than a way to describe myself.
It's a bit like computers:
Intel had the Pentium, Pentium II, Pentium !!!, Pentium 4, Centrino, Celeron, Core, Core2, each time Intel had cool ideas and stuff.
I used several theme concepts, and it reflected in my handles/nicknames.
The reason I changed my nic so much, each nickname was a concept I invented, rather than a way to describe myself.
It's a bit like computers:
Intel had the Pentium, Pentium II, Pentium !!!, Pentium 4, Centrino, Celeron, Core, Core2, each time Intel had cool ideas and stuff.
I used several theme concepts, and it reflected in my handles/nicknames.
- 486 player
- Gaming Demi-god
- Posts: 1219
- Joined: Wed Sep 18, 2002 6:32 am
- Location: Europe
-
- Expert
- Posts: 154
- Joined: Sat Dec 23, 2006 9:07 pm
It's not so much the experiences themselves that bothered me, it's the painful feeling of wondering if I could have done better.
Like Brian Mulroney powerslamming John Turner in the 1984 debate, this is sort of what I said to myself in my own mind:
"You had an option, sir. You could have said, 'I am not going to be on any forum. This is wrong for the Internet, and I am not going to ask Internet users to pay the price.' You had an option, sir--to avoid these horrible situations--and you chose to say 'yes' to the old attitudes and the old stories of the people who do stuff like that. That sir, if I may say respectfully, that is not good enough for the Internet."
Granted, I'm aware that it all wasn't necessarily 100% my fault, but I know that if I never posted anything on any forum, none of this would have happened.
Yeah, it's the same mentality like "If you never drive, you'll never have a car crash". But at least you may see my view of it.
Imagine if nobody ever posted on any forum to avoid conflicts. But I have a peculiar desire to avoid conflict at all costs. That's what hurt me the most, wondering if I ever did anything wrong or if I was a catalyst to the behavior.
I never cared about what the "other guy" did wrong so much as if I did something to incite the situation. As in, "Did I throw gasoline on the fire?"
And, moreso than psychiatric help, it's best if I see a bad situation ahead of time, and quickly avoid it before it starts. That's what I hope I learned better after all these years.
And I know, if I knew back then what I know now, we would have been forum buddies.
And a testament to the improvements, is that we have respect for each other now in 2007, what a stark difference from 2004!
Thanks,
Justin
Like Brian Mulroney powerslamming John Turner in the 1984 debate, this is sort of what I said to myself in my own mind:
"You had an option, sir. You could have said, 'I am not going to be on any forum. This is wrong for the Internet, and I am not going to ask Internet users to pay the price.' You had an option, sir--to avoid these horrible situations--and you chose to say 'yes' to the old attitudes and the old stories of the people who do stuff like that. That sir, if I may say respectfully, that is not good enough for the Internet."
Granted, I'm aware that it all wasn't necessarily 100% my fault, but I know that if I never posted anything on any forum, none of this would have happened.
Yeah, it's the same mentality like "If you never drive, you'll never have a car crash". But at least you may see my view of it.
Imagine if nobody ever posted on any forum to avoid conflicts. But I have a peculiar desire to avoid conflict at all costs. That's what hurt me the most, wondering if I ever did anything wrong or if I was a catalyst to the behavior.
I never cared about what the "other guy" did wrong so much as if I did something to incite the situation. As in, "Did I throw gasoline on the fire?"
And, moreso than psychiatric help, it's best if I see a bad situation ahead of time, and quickly avoid it before it starts. That's what I hope I learned better after all these years.
And I know, if I knew back then what I know now, we would have been forum buddies.
And a testament to the improvements, is that we have respect for each other now in 2007, what a stark difference from 2004!
Thanks,
Justin
- Check-Mate
- Lover Of The Tiny Guybrush
- Posts: 1030
- Joined: Sun Jan 12, 2003 4:28 pm
- Location: Canada
-
- Expert
- Posts: 154
- Joined: Sat Dec 23, 2006 9:07 pm
I don't mind a conflict, as long as it wasn't my fault.
The only conflicts that bother me are the ones where I did something wrong, or if I was ignorant about something that I should have known, or if I could have done something better.
For example, when I walked down the street one day, a middle-aged woman passed me, put the middle finger up to me and told me to "Fuck off". I didn't care because I know I didn't do anything to deserve it.
But if I bumped into her, or stepped on her foot, or something, then it would have made me feel bad.
The only conflicts that bother me are the ones where I did something wrong, or if I was ignorant about something that I should have known, or if I could have done something better.
For example, when I walked down the street one day, a middle-aged woman passed me, put the middle finger up to me and told me to "Fuck off". I didn't care because I know I didn't do anything to deserve it.
But if I bumped into her, or stepped on her foot, or something, then it would have made me feel bad.
- GAMER
- Gaming Demi-god
- Posts: 1527
- Joined: Sun Sep 22, 2002 4:55 am
- Location: chasing chikeds in the snow!
And...This is the internet. No offence to anyone here, but Real Life is where conflict matters...If i had a *major* falling out with anyone here, i could just leave and not give it a second thought.
I hope your Real Life relationships are easier for you...
GAMER
I hope your Real Life relationships are easier for you...
GAMER
<img src="http://thumbs.deviantart.com/300W-96A09 ... rs_Sig.jpg">
i have a chik magnet...observe!
<MARQUEE BEHAVIOR="slide"><font color="crimson">
[MAGNET]-------------------- </marquee>
i have a chik magnet...observe!
<MARQUEE BEHAVIOR="slide"><font color="crimson">
[MAGNET]-------------------- </marquee>
- Larry Laffer
- Admin
- Posts: 4143
- Joined: Sun Feb 19, 2006 8:06 am
- Location: Romania
Gamer_V, you're developing an obsession, man! I mean come on! saying the same thing with every occasion? Please!Gamer_V wrote:In short:GAMER wrote:And...This is the internet. No offence to anyone here, but Real Life is where conflict matters...If i had a *major* falling out with anyone here, i could just leave and not give it a second thought.
I hope your Real Life relationships are easier for you...
GAMER
{picture clipped, too damned big}
<center>
ModBot™ - Faster than the speed of spam!(and always taking it to where it belongs!)
</center>abyss wrote:I don't even know if starcraft 1 was a windows or dos games.
ModBot™ - Faster than the speed of spam!(and always taking it to where it belongs!)
It's the first time I've used this picture on this forum. On top of that, I didn't know TSM said it in that other topic. Cause that wasn't me, in case you hadn't noticed.Larry Laffer wrote:Gamer_V, you're developing an obsession, man! I mean come on! saying the same thing with every occasion? Please!Gamer_V wrote:In short:
{picture clipped, too damned big}
-
- Expert
- Posts: 154
- Joined: Sat Dec 23, 2006 9:07 pm
- Check-Mate
- Lover Of The Tiny Guybrush
- Posts: 1030
- Joined: Sun Jan 12, 2003 4:28 pm
- Location: Canada
Sometimes Online stuff can become part of your "real" life.
Even though we're all real people, and we all have real feelings and real goals and real motives.
Whether or not we're being our "real" selves, or pretending to be someone we're not.
Maybe the conflict isn't "real" simply because it's not someone we really know.
But if you have a conflict with someone you don't really know in "real" life, does it make a bigger impact? Yes, usually.
Why? Cause it's "real" life?
I know I've developed a lot of relationships with people over the internet. Whether or not they're "real" is all in the eye of the beholder.
(How many times can you say the word 'real' in a phrase?! ANNNND Go.)
Even though we're all real people, and we all have real feelings and real goals and real motives.
Whether or not we're being our "real" selves, or pretending to be someone we're not.
Maybe the conflict isn't "real" simply because it's not someone we really know.
But if you have a conflict with someone you don't really know in "real" life, does it make a bigger impact? Yes, usually.
Why? Cause it's "real" life?
I know I've developed a lot of relationships with people over the internet. Whether or not they're "real" is all in the eye of the beholder.
(How many times can you say the word 'real' in a phrase?! ANNNND Go.)
- The_Sinister_Mastermind
- <font color=red><b>Overlord</b></font>
- Posts: 2744
- Joined: Wed Oct 26, 2005 11:20 am
- Location: NSW, Australia, Down Under Verse
It's a healthy part of life, bottling up emotions inside only leads to more problems, it's better to get it out in the open and resolve it in a mature fashion.
<center>I am the master, fear none but me. I am the master of all that will be...
Are you looking for Z? - DOSBox & D-Fend Guide! - I’m looking for 4 games!
Best Of Windows Entertainment Package
DOSgames IRC is back! now with DOS Trivia!
Server: irc.p2p-network.net
Channel: #DOSgames
For mIRC users: irc://irc.p2p-network.net/DOSgames
Please don’t PM me every time you can’t find a game, I really don’t have time to logon to the site that often let alone be your personal assistant.
Just use the “Finding Old Games” subforum like everyone else.</center>
Are you looking for Z? - DOSBox & D-Fend Guide! - I’m looking for 4 games!
Best Of Windows Entertainment Package
DOSgames IRC is back! now with DOS Trivia!
Server: irc.p2p-network.net
Channel: #DOSgames
For mIRC users: irc://irc.p2p-network.net/DOSgames
Please don’t PM me every time you can’t find a game, I really don’t have time to logon to the site that often let alone be your personal assistant.
Just use the “Finding Old Games” subforum like everyone else.</center>